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Originally Posted by ngdawg
Many of your comments, ie; rushing to get to a golf course, are condescending.
1) Is it your contention, based on what you've stated that children such as my own (twins,C-section) will not fare well? That they will not contribute or have peaceful existence based on their arrivals?
2) Is it your belief that it is primarily the freebirth technique that boosts a child's future positive development?
3) Do you think relying on the medical community for a healthy outcome is misguided? Why? What is the alternative?
4) Just as there are positives to an alternative choice(in this case, freebirth), what are the negatives?
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From what I have observed watching the births I attended in the hospital as a professional labor support, doctors tend to rush second stage pushing with episiotomy, breaking the water, forceps, and vacumn extraction. If it means I am condescending to point out the fact that doctors do rush the birth to the detriment of the mother, then I guess I am condescending.
As for the four points:
1) I believe your twins will be just fine
2) I believe freebirth sets up the child for a positive view of life. But I believe prenatal nutrition and attachment parenting are more important than the actual birth in terms of how the child develops long term
3) I believe relying on the medical profession for anything related to health is naive. Legal, properly prescribed, and eaten drugs murder 300,000 americans every year. Some experts think that number is far too low and may even be as high as 600,000 people.
I believe drugs and surgery can be helpful about 10% of the time during birth.
But the fact that our c-section rate has gone up 10% in just the past few years (it is 30%) with no end in sight convinces me that we are going in the wrong direction. I check the CDC web site every once in a while and never before in american history have so many women had prenatal care, it is in the high nineties percentage wise. So the equation better prenatal care equals better outcome should be playing out in terms of our statistics for surgery, prematurity, and low birth weight.
Yet, the indicators are all going in the wrong direction. Prematurity is up, low birth weight is up and the section rate may top out at 40% by the end of the decade.
Why? Because in allopathic birth the doctors are practicing cover your butt medicine and I am not very interested in my body or my childs body being traumetized with drugs and procedures just because the doc is afraid of a lawsuit.
I believe we are fast approaching the day when you either schedual a section or give birth unassisted. I know several women who have had this scenario play out simply because the docs are refusing to do VBAC's in the hospital. Most states have outlawed VBACS for lay midwives at home, and so for these women the choice is either a section or a freebirth. Many are choosing freebirth.
4) The biggest negative for me has been the 13 year fight I have had with my husband Paul. He was a very mainstream, sports nut, computer wizard, sort of guy, and he has evolved, but the fights over birth early in our marriage almost ruined everything we had worked for as a couple.
After my third hospital birth I told him I just could not do it again. And then I gave him an ultimatum saying that I would never give birth in a hospital again and that if he wanted any more kids with me we were doing it at home and alone.
He has never felt comfortable with this choice and although he did deliver our two sons in 1996 and 2002, the pure, raw, emotion this has brought up for us has been very difficult to work through. But we are still together and I love him with all of my heart and he understands why I don't feel comfortable being in the hospital to give birth.
The other negative for us is that some people think we are nuts. But we really don't make important choices based on what other people think of us. So that is not as big of a deal as it might be for other families.
Jenny Hatch