Kpax

Dude, before even reading your post, I just wanted to say that I'm in exactly the same situation as you! Hell, I never even kissed a girl until just 2 weeks ago... I'll post more on this subject after I read a few of the replies, but yeah. I mean, I know people don't have it written on their forheads that they're not a virgin, but most of the time at work I figure (different staff almost every day) that I'm the only virgin there, and it makes me feel different, and a difference like that is really hard to cope with because it's not something we can change right when we want to...

OK, so I read your post. You sound almost exactly like me, word for word. For non-religious people, work is the main outlet (for meeting people, but not for the same thing), or otherwise people you still know from school. I used to go to a church regularly, but then someone I knew spread some rumors about me and everybody there hated me, so I haven't went back (this was also within the past two weeks). Lemme ask, do you have any friends? I mean, just let your friends know what you think about, like... anything that's a main dillemma, and they'll probably help you. What the workmates did for Andy on 40 Year-Old Virgin is pretty realistic. They can ask for you, and point to you. Of course, this also depends on your physical appearance.

LOL I also thought about Nevada and Amsterdam, but I brushed that aside because of yes, STDs, and the rules involved that make it awkward from A to Z. Actually, there are probably a lot of other things I considered, that I forgot about. Maybe it was more of just "it crossed my mind." Anyway, I'm not going to do the Nevada or Amsterdam thing. I guess I don't want it that much...

I'm still a virgin, but I would say friends are the best help. Not friends you have too much in common with, but ones that are more outgoing who can take you under their wing. Of course, this isn't something us introverted types can come by very easily, either. When I had, friends (just a couple weeks ago), I got to meet so many girls. The one I kissed was someone I met through my (former) friends. Of course, I haven't heard from her since. Now, I know the subject is "virginity," not kissing, but I think it's the same thing, because even if you could go to bars and put on your game, that would be hard for anyone to do by themselves. Usually you do that as a group, I think.