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Originally Posted by ratbastid
Well, that's valid until you consider who entered into that promise (I decline to use the word "contract" in this case, because it's just inaccurate). Look: I stood in front of lurkette and our families and loved ones and promised that I'd forsake all others. I did. Can't deny it. But who I made that promise to was lurkette, and I'm who she made that promise to. If we agree to alter our agreement, we have the freedom to do that. There's no dishonor of the word we originally gave, in that. There would be dishonor in it if we pretended we'd never said that, or we acted to break that word in secret (as so many married people do). But to say: here's what we said, and now we're saying something different... that's COMPLETELY an act of honoring our word.
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I agree 100% with my ratbastid. Except I'm not so sure we actually did have the verbiage "forsaking all others" in our vows. We chopped a lot out, including most of the god stuff. I remember the sickness/health, better/worse, richer/poorer, till death do us part stuff, but I don't specifically remember the "forsaking all others" part. But I'm getting pedantic.
Which is kind of the point. You can honor the
spirit of a "contract" even if you alter the actual word of the agreement. If you're going to nitpick and get all snippy about contracts and such (my, what a romantic view of marriage...) you're kind of missing the point.