Originally Posted by abaya

Well, just working from what I read, which was "signed"... but even if we're talking about an oral contract, I'd hate to know that my wedding vows could be used against me someday. Many of us did not use the traditional vows for this very reason, and we wrote our own especially because our lives and personalities cannot be bound by those age-old words from some priest's book. We wanted to remain open to something alternative happening a few years/decades down the road, even if we never acted on it. I'm sure there are others who did the same... in which case, there is no contract to violate, whether oral or signed.