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Originally Posted by hagatha
And Lurkette, I'm sorry if you take any offence to what I've said so far about marriage, but I am entitled to my opinion. I still don't understand why people enter into it if they have no intention of honoring the contract they've signed. And if you do have a polyamorous arrangement, you've taken on another emotional/sexual partner, and that is a breach of the original contract you entered.
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Well, that's valid until you consider who entered into that promise (I decline to use the word "contract" in this case, because it's just inaccurate). Look: I stood in front of lurkette and our families and loved ones and promised that I'd forsake all others. I did. Can't deny it. But who I made that promise to was lurkette, and I'm who she made that promise to. If we agree to alter our agreement, we have the freedom to do that. There's no dishonor of the word we originally gave, in that. There
would be dishonor in it if we pretended we'd never said that, or we acted to break that word in secret (as so many married people do). But to say: here's what we said, and now we're saying something different... that's COMPLETELY an act of honoring our word.