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Well, just working from what I read, which was "signed"... but even if we're talking about an oral contract, I'd hate to know that my wedding vows could be used against me someday. Many of us did not use the traditional vows for this very reason, and we wrote our own especially because our lives and personalities cannot be bound by those age-old words from some priest's book. We wanted to remain open to something alternative happening a few years/decades down the road, even if we never acted on it. I'm sure there are others who did the same... in which case, there is no contract to violate, whether oral or signed.

EDIT... BTW: So if two people have no intention of honoring monogamous bifidelity (new word?), they shouldn't get married...? Well, what about those of us with citizenships from different countries, who have no option other than to get married, if we want to be together? I wouldn't be here enjoying Iceland with ktspktsp if we hadn't gotten married, because legally, he would be unable to get a visa without that "piece of paper" that binds us together. Nor would he be able to apply for Permanent Residency in the US without us being married.

So even if we wanted to be polyamorous and all cohabit because "marriage" doesn't apply to us... the laws of the US and many other countries would never permit us to travel and live freely in other countries with our loved ones. As it is, let's say Ratbastid and Lurkette immigrated to a new country... legally, they could not bring StellaLuna with them. Which is a real tragedy. This same lack of justice also applies to gay and lesbian couples, which absolutely sucks for them.

No, people get married for all KINDS of different reasons than to simply "be faithful" to one another in a binary way. Marriage migration is in the top 5 of that list, I can assure you. And many times, it has jack squat to do with being faithful.

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