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Great thread.
For me it comes down to the human delusion that something that CAN happen ought to be the normal state of things, simply because of how much we WANT it to happen.
In this case, love. People see that some loves last for ever, and assume that this is how all loves will be.
As Shanni has said, some of us find something that we think is love, but then when love comes along later we realise that what we had before was a hollow facsimile.
I thought I was in love in the past, and I fully intended to stand by my wedding promises and social contracts, even when it became clear to me that the woman I was married to was not "my love" but was still someone I could live with in comfort if not in ecstacy or lust.
I was angry and hurt when she decided to have an extra-marital affair, and as she was not prepared to give it up and re-examine our marriage I told her to get out.
After a year I met and fell in love with a woman who made me realise what I'd been missing, and now three years later I am still happy that I have something that I never had before.
I want it to last, and intend to work to make it last; neither of these turned out to be the case with my orginal marriage.
Sadly, life is not a rehearsal, and you only get one go-round. On that basis,when you THINK you are in love, you have to behave as if you ARE in love.
Subsequent events can prove that you were wrong.
I feel that your value as a person is in some way related to how you chose to deal with life when you find out that you were wrong.
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