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I think it's amazing to be with someone for a really long time, to know them better than anyone else may ever know them, until they become almost a part of you. To me, having lots of different partners throughout life can't beat having only one and being so in tune with them that one look between you can say everything.
I think the reason this attracts us is because humans are fascinated with other humans and with communicating with one another effectively. We are notoriously conscious of our "singularity" and of how we are essentially alone, though we are constantly surrounded by others. I think most of us are strongly attracted to understanding or being understood by others. It's pretty hard getting just one person to truly know us, so we focus on having that one person to share with. Then sharing not only a deep psychological understanding of our minds with a deep physical understanding of one another's bodies, well what can be better than that?
I think love can last forever, though it's not easy to achieve and requires a lot of effort, patience and perseverance, When I speak of love, I'm not just talking about that exhilirating feeling we equate with the start of relationships, that lust-love thrill we get. I'm talking about something more deep rooted and enduring, based on mutual respect, understanding, and bonds that can never be entirely broken apart.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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