katyg

I am sure you aren't a perfect person, no one is, so why do you expect perfection from a partner?

You fall in love with people you fall in love with, I don't feel you choose necessarily. 'Love is learning to see an imperfect person perfectly'. I don't want to make you feel bad but I do think it's slightly immature to view love as simply wish fulfillment - it's not that simple. You don't ask the universe for a perfect person and they turn up, you fall for someone and then you work to make a life with them, accept their faults and small differences and enjoy the journey. Forgive yourself for the past and if you really love her...and accept her and aren't 'settling' in some way for her then go for it!
xx