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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
Why the hell should I have to pay on a regular basis to prove to the government I still love my husband?
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This is precisely why I never wanted to sign a license or take a vow in front of a God in which I don't believe.
My marriage (until recently) involved neither of these things because I saw no reason to prove to the government of a supernatural being that I love my wife.
Rather, we made our vows in front of our friends and family. People who know us and love us. Vows said in their presence are, to me, far more important.
That said, I still wouldn't be so naive to think that my love would last forever. I might, but I take my vows seriously. I have seen people fall out of love, I have have fallen out of love. We cannot control the fact that over time we will change who we are. The 24-year-old that married my wife is a very different person from who I am now. We have been lucky that we have grown together and changed in a compatible way. I have seen the opposite time and again.
I would rather live in the present than burden my future self with an potentially impossible vow.