Realities change, but traditions don't.
Standard marriage vows are how many years old with little to no change because marriage 200 years ago wasn't what it is now. Women were second-class (love honor and obey) who, if they wanted to leave, had to forsake everything, including their children. They were 'marked' by their churches, their families and their communities if, heaven forbid, they found themselves out of love and miserable and decide to divorce.
Love songs aren't real, they're pining set to music, dreams of that 'perfect' love that we have bought into because the words are so nice.
Love changes as we change and sometimes people don't grow together and, like an old sweater, the relationship become unraveled, worn, full of holes or just doesn't fit any more.
My parents have been married for 57 years. So many times growing up, I'd hear my mother say she wanted a divorce because Dad had pissed her off again. Now, seeing how we are, she keeps telling me to 'stick it out' and it'll get better. But the difference is, my parents didn't stop loving each other, they just didn't always synchronize the love they felt. And I wonder, when she says that to me, is 50% of a couple still in love going to be enough to 'stick it out'?
/stops before she rambles....
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Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.
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