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Tilted Cat Head
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Originally Posted by liamfoster
Cynthetiq - why not being ourselves from the beginning? Who are ourselves, when is it that we are really ourselves, isn't it that we all act differently with different people? There's a book called '1, nobody, 100000' and it talks about how different we are when we deal with different people and how those people see us with different lights. It's all very interesting.
Being ourself is a generalization, if you go to a job interview and you really want that job, then there is a level of adaptation of yours. You are still yourself but... you use a strategy.
If you couldn't care the less about that job, then what the heck... no strategy is needed, if I loose it, who cares? 
I repeat, strategies are just for the starting part of a relationship, to prevent a premature end of a relationship for illogical reasons. |
I agree that first impressions are an important part of any relationship, but that is FIRST impression, not continued masking as to what you truly are. It's your life. It's your household you live in it as you see fit.
I cannot understand some of the friends that I have that are DIFFERENT people when they are with this girlfriend/wife/SO because they are acting in a way that is acceptable or presented to the other person. If you can't be yourself in your own house where can you be?
That said, one doesn't plan on a relationship lasting 5-10 years, it just happens one day at a time. Suddenly you look down and you find out you've hit another anniversary. Again, being yourself is the key to long lasting deep relationships, being fake is the key to short superficial short ones.
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