thanks noodlebee and thanks to all of you.
I am actually learning some real life lessons here. I did learn i made a mistake on testing my girl, and I appreciate your advices on the matter.
On the other end, I realized we both have commitment problems, because we have always choosen unavailable partners in our pasts, in terms of distance, and we both got scared when the other one was getting too serious.
The ironic issue here is that after faking that online flirt with her, I realized what was she capable of doing, and considering that I love her,I started to become more needy, as I said, and become a chaser.
My chaser status might have been quite an unattractive feature for her because she started to back off.
Now I am braking patterns all the time when it's needed, and it works! it bloody works! If she comes to me with a negative attitude and wants to turn me down, I tell her something totally absurd and lovely, she cracks up, and she's not able to go back into her negative pattern no more.
These are the strategies I'm talking about, at the end it's a way to understand what's going on, what do to in order to create some more spice, positive tension and keep the relationship alive, if you really want it.
Cynthetiq - why not being ourselves from the beginning? Who are ourselves, when is it that we are really ourselves, isn't it that we all act differently with different people? There's a book called '1, nobody, 100000' and it talks about how different we are when we deal with different people and how those people see us with different lights. It's all very interesting.
Being ourself is a generalization, if you go to a job interview and you really want that job, then there is a level of adaptation of yours. You are still yourself but... you use a strategy.
If you couldn't care the less about that job, then what the heck... no strategy is needed, if I loose it, who cares?
I repeat, strategies are just for the starting part of a relationship, to prevent a premature end of a relationship for illogical reasons.