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For one time, I actually agree with liamfoster, even if it is only partial. He is correct that there is at least some strategy in interaction. This is not just for relationships with significant others. It is also for your friends and family. The only reason it doesn't feel like "strategy" is because we are used to it so long that it turns into a natural habit.
When you first go date someone, you are more likely to dress nicely and be presentable. As time passes and the person knows and loves you more, you can relax yourself and go meet him/her even when you wear pyjamas.
And it is hard to say "be yourself". Some of you may treat different people in a different way. For example, I need to treat my family elders respectfully and I don't tell them things that might be taboo for them. But I can tell very personal things to my close friends and boyfriend. I talk to my co-workers in a respectful and friendly manner but more relaxed than with my family. All of that is part of myself but not the full "be yourself".
The reason why I say only partial agreement is because of what he said about the details of that strategy i.e. cockiness. The neediness issue, I also agree with him, is bad for attraction. To attract a person who is mature and will not flirt to the extent of the girl liamfoster talked about, self confidence and humour are good things to have. But if it goes to the extent of cockiness, that person might think it is for hiding insecurity, which is as bad as neediness.
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