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Walking Shadow · 06-20-2007, 10:57 AM

My dad got married last September to a owman who is 18 years younger then he is, he's 68, she's 50. I don't have any problems with it, and obviously neither did they, nor did any of our relatives or friends.

I like a woman who is 16 years younger then I am, I'm 38, she's 22. I should also add that I dated a woman who was 12 years younger then I am, and started dating her when she was a senior in high school.

On other message boards when this type of issue comes up, it seems that invariably the poster in the relationship is condemned as being a "sicko/creep/weirdo/child molestor/(insert your insulting phrase here), mainly because they are taking advantage of an immature "virginal person" who has no clue about the big wide world or, if they are younger, are being taken advantage of by an older creep who wants nothing more then to bang their socks off with no emotional commitment, thus scarring them for life.

I guess it's the whole "immature/no emotional commitment thing" that bothers me the most because doesn't a huge part of being a young person revolve around being immature. Christ, these days sex in high school and college is as far from being emotionally involved as you can get.

So, how much of an age gap is too much?

5 years?

10 years?

You can also chime on on anything else I've said.

06-20-2007, 10:57 AM	#1 (permalink)
Walking Shadow Tilted	How much of an age difference is too much or "icky/creepy/sick/etc" My dad got married last September to a owman who is 18 years younger then he is, he's 68, she's 50. I don't have any problems with it, and obviously neither did they, nor did any of our relatives or friends. I like a woman who is 16 years younger then I am, I'm 38, she's 22. I should also add that I dated a woman who was 12 years younger then I am, and started dating her when she was a senior in high school. On other message boards when this type of issue comes up, it seems that invariably the poster in the relationship is condemned as being a "sicko/creep/weirdo/child molestor/(insert your insulting phrase here), mainly because they are taking advantage of an immature "virginal person" who has no clue about the big wide world or, if they are younger, are being taken advantage of by an older creep who wants nothing more then to bang their socks off with no emotional commitment, thus scarring them for life. I guess it's the whole "immature/no emotional commitment thing" that bothers me the most because doesn't a huge part of being a young person revolve around being immature. Christ, these days sex in high school and college is as far from being emotionally involved as you can get. So, how much of an age gap is too much? 5 years? 10 years? You can also chime on on anything else I've said.