guys i'm not talking about a 5-10 years stable relationship here, i'm talking about the very first months, when both parties are getting to know one another.
What I said about men it is as well valid for women, i'd see how any average guy would react if at the beginning of a relationship the girl would get at once needy, obsessed and predictable..... i'd say he wouldnt find her attractive any more.
If you start a relationship and u realize that u r really into her/him, then it's better to back up - is this a strategy? whatever
Someone can be totally himself/herself only if he/she doesnt care that much about the other person. Hence, no strategies are needed, if you loose her/him, who cares!
Again, a strategy doesn't mean to manipulate or to lie... it just means to act less predictable, to adapt yourself if you realize that what you are doing is not working and that you care about that relationship enough.
Then once the relationship is stable, no need of strategies. There will be trust, and consistent love. But the very beginning is different.
Those who are not attractive and never had great success of course blame strategies cause they r desperate