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Originally Posted by *Nikki*
I believe that perhaps you are over thinking this all and making it more difficult on yourself?When I decided that I wanted a child, I wanted a child. That meant any child that we created.
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Well, if those are your criteria, then I'm staying childless, apparently. The problem is that sometimes I want a child, and sometimes I don't. There is no such clarity for me on this issue. I don't think I'm overthinking it. It's not insignificant to knowingly pass on a genetic disorder that is going to mean a lifetime of medical problems and complications and discomfort. And if more people thought about having kids before they actually did it, I think the world would probably be a happier place.
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There were chances that the child could have something wrong, and I was offered tests to see if this was the case. I declined all such tests. Tests would not help me because the results would not matter.
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Um...not to be offensive, but that's just kind of dumb. I don't think it could hurt to know that you were going to have a fetus with spina bifida or anencephaly or some such essentially fatal disease. I know there are people who just want a child, any child, and it's the process that matters to them. But I guess I'm not one of those people.