I'm guilty of some of the male sins. What can I say? When i started having sex I didn't act like a confident lover, since I wasn't one. Now I've had a bit of practice and am able to proceed with more self-assurance (and that includes asking 'what works for you?', although to be fair that's really more for the post-sex cuddle chat than something I'm likely to ask during the deed.)
Also, to weigh in on the issue - I will try different things during sex, particularly with a new partner, and I will do my best to figure out what works for her. I find it both helpful and sexy if she has the confidence to give me a bit of guidance (either by word or by hand). I find it infinitely sexier if she has the confidence to take charge once in a while and make damn sure she gets what she wants. Bottom line is, ladies, that while I may do my best to satisfy you I'm not going to know what works unless you speak up and actually tell me.
As to the other list, I've fortunately never had 25 happen to me, but I can't even imagine continuing in that situation. If all I wanted was an orgasm, I'd jerk off. The whole point of sex to me is that it's a two person thing and if she's not into it, I'm not going to be either.
Also, an amen to 23:
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23. Undressing in the dark. If you're shy, dim the lights, but give the man something to see. No ripping off the clothes and diving under the covers, either.
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If I'm about to have sex with you it means I think you're sexy and want to see more of you. And besides, have you seen how ridiculous a naked man with an erection looks? Don't be so damn self-conscious.