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Originally Posted by liamfoster
pig, we have a relationship, like soulmates, individuals who are intimately drawn to one another through a favorable meeting of the minds and who find mutual acceptance and understanding with one another. We may feel ourselves bonded together for a lifetime; and, hence, also sexual partners.
The reason why I didnt break up with her is that I am not Mr. loyal guy either, I mean, i casually talk and flirt to girls when I'm out, nothing serious though.
What left me really skeptic about her is that she planned a whole flirt indeed, rich of details, from the first eyesight, first touches and finally great sex.
Guys, keep in mind thatthat:
1) she was the one who asked first for my (fake) mobile number in chat
2) she was the one who started the sexual innuendos
3) the day after the chat she told me she sent me an sms and I (fake) didn't reply (that was because the number was invented)
Updates: still havent told her anything, she is supposed to move in with me the next month and we'll see how we'll feel being with one another in an everyday life basis situation.
i'll keep u guys posted!
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It seems like you two are pretty young. I don't know how you "know" that you are soul mates after only six months of dating, and part, or all, of that has been long distance. Young people often mistake great sex for being soulmates.
Also, call me a cynic, but long distance relationships don't work. Why? Because insecurities get magnified and make you do stupid things like set traps for your partner. Haven't you ever watched "The Real World"? I laugh my ass off every season when a cast member thinks that their long distance relationship will survive. It's the same thing every time. One person gets insecure, the other says, "You don't trust me." The person who isn't trusted then asks themselves, "Why am I passing up all of these great opportunities for someone who doesn't trust me?" and breaks off the relationship.
So, it boils down to two things. Either you already suspected that she wasn't trustworthy and were looking for confirmation, or you are too insecure about yourself to be able to handle a relationship. It could be a combination of the two. You really should look at your insecurities though. You will NEVER have a good relationship as long as you aren't capable of trusting anyone. Quit testing your girlfriends! People lie, you can't change that.
You should also learn that infatuation does not make you soul mates. I doubt you know all of the bad things about her. That is why it is called dating. You have to REALLY know someone before you can determine whether or not they are your soulmate. Odds are that she isn't and never will be. You can go ahead and move in together but my advice is to break it off and work on yourself before moving in with anyone. You don't trust women, period. If you are going into each relationship with the pressure of making this the one you will spend your entire life with, you will be continually frustrated. If you are meant to be together for life, it will happen all on it's own. You can't force someone to be your soulmate.