Thanks for all the useful advice guys and gals.
Well we've met up a couple of times this week as the biological father has her son this week. Getting on really well and I have mentioned the fact that i'm not sure how I feel about the situation of her having a son. Hadn't thought about stuff like that before.
Will: I do like kids, and someday I will have kids of my own (hopefully). I'm not sure if i'm ready now. My life is only just settling down after a few years of everything being "up in the air". You've got a good point that being a dad is not a half-hearted affair, and that's what concerns me. Who knows, maybe something like that is what I need in my life, or something to avoid completely?
I don't know how i'd feel telling friends and family that we met back up and she's got a child. Maybe they'd think I was a fool for going near her, or people might have less respect for her. I know other people's opinions like that shouldn't really matter but we're kidding ourselves if we said we didn't care what others think.
The sex was good last night
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Originally Posted by tenniels
I like kids too, but I just don't want that kind of involvement with someone else's kid, so I think it would be important for me to be upfront about that.
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So you would tell her that although you'd like to see her, you wouldn't want any involvement with the kid? I think that would be an instant "no-no" in her eyes....
It's really unknown territory for me here too