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Ok, I agree communication is key.
But most guys don't take criticism, even if it is trying to be constructive, too well. I think this is reality. Of course you can say "Oh I love it when you do x, do it some more", but if you're too insistent and there's too many of those comments, a guy doesn't have to be too smart to catch on that you're trying to guide him...and a lot of men will take offense because they are convinced or want to be that they are pretty good at sex and everything inbetween.
So tread carefully. I hope you have the right kind of man who won't mind and will actually appreciate (this I think is rarer) you "teaching" him. Most guys' egos are pretty fragile and they will be a little upset that they are not doing it for you.
But I do think that for a relationship to work and achieve a certain level of maturity, there has to be good communication, and particularly in the bedroom. I don't think that is easy to have though.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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