Johnny Rotten

Let me put it this way: You get out of a relationship what you put into it. If you put energy into pushing someone's boundaries rather than setting boundaries, all you will discover is the flaws in human nature. You'll only find out what kind of SO that person might be if presented with a certain set of circumstances. If you're honest and upfront with someone, you'll tend to get honesty back. If you communicate openly, you'll tend to get that in return.

"Gotcha" games are largely pointless, especially when the only questionable things they've done arrive as a direct result of your own actions. It is also unreasonable to expect cemented loyalty... ever. The mating game just doesn't make a lot of room for monogamy, particularly when you're in a long-distance situation and only a few months into the relationship.

I got nuked by infidelity a few years back, and I'm here to tell you that flirting with a stranger and exchanging phone numbers and even photos is small fucking potatoes. Going out for coffee is inconsequential. All she did wrong was to pretend like it wasn't happening when confronted with a loaded question.

You didn't want the truth. You wanted to catch her in a lie. So you phrased the question so that she couldn't answer truthfully without feeling like a piece of shit. And as you've discovered, most people would rather lie than feel like a piece of shit.

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