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Originally Posted by kurty[B]
Instead of telling them they suck at something, try saying "let's try something else this time, try doing this with your tongue". See where it goes. If you react better, he'll be more receptive to future things you might want him to try. Coaching is much better in this scenario than flat out telling someone they are not good at something.
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I absolutely agree. No sense in going on pretending everything is great, but you don't have to flat out say, you suck at this! Use it as an opportunity to tell him what really works for you or try something new. Maybe even do a little research together, make it about both of you not just him. Tell him it feels really good when you _____________, or I've always wanted to see how it feels when _____________, or when he does do something right, make sure he knows it! Moan and groan, tell him how great that feels. Give him a tutorial, show him what you do to yourself to make sure you get off. If he knows you like something, he's very likely to keep repeating it. Let us know how things go!!