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Am I too late for further comment? I left the thread after it seemed like people were yelling. Was I yelling too? I am a newbie so it is harder to tell the atmosphere of the forums and any "unwritten rules" of appropriate behavior. Please tell me if anything I said could be improved in tone and manner.
The main thing that bothered me was that liamfoster did not offer all information at the beginning. I also sensed that he was avoiding questions. For example, he still did not answer my question about setting proper rules and guidelines at the beginning of a relationship. Maybe I am wrong. It is hard to determine online except for words. I still feel it is a misunderstanding that the girl had more lenient guidelines in her mind for the relationship than liamfoster. This was why I advised him to tell everything. Sorry if that was unclear.
But regardless, my advice is just my advice. This is the same for other people who replied to the thread. Of course I already established that I disagree with him just like many other people but we are not his dictators. And even if he does follow our advice, I do not expect him to follow word for word because, no matter how much detail given, there will always be a "maybe" that will force him to improvise. He may also explicitly reject our advice but still follow some of it. It doesn't matter.
Despite the fact that I disagree with him, I still trust him to be able to improvise in some way that he feels is best. If it works, that is good. If not, that is just another life lesson. I think the most important thing about this thread is that he will have a good result. This was what I wanted when I offered my advice. If it is wrong and liamfoster tells me the result that his method worked better, then he can have a happy ending and I can also learn.
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