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Old 05-31-2007, 11:55 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
They're moving to other states to attend college, leaving those states after graduation, pairing up with members of the opposite (or same) sex and isolating themselves from friends while developing relationships, or just taking time to be "independent."
Yes, definitely. I'm turning 28 and have moved at least 10 times in the last 10 years, with several of those not only being cross-country moves but international as well. I've usually been able to make friends easily every time I've moved, but my recent move to Iceland (my 2nd time doing so in my 20s) has been very different than previous moves. I think this is because:

1) I'm recently married, which makes friend-finding somehow a different ballgame than before (haven't quite figured out why, yet... it's like singles and couples don't mix?? No one told me this before!).

2) I'm no longer a student, which I have been for 23 of my 28 years on this earth... and thus am no longer privy to the social life of a campus community, which significantly eases the process of making friends.

So, like you, Amnesia... 100% of my good friends live at least a 5 hour flight away from here, and most of them live a good deal further away... and I (and my husband) have had a hard time adjusting to the new social reality of our current location in life/the world. I spend a lot of time chatting with friends online to keep up.

Here's hoping the 30's will go as JinnKai said... But for now, I think this is all pretty par for the course, including your situation. C'est la vie and stuff.
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