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Originally Posted by abaya
Gotcha, Jess... sorry for not giving you (and Lurkette) more credit, but I guess the overall vibe of the thread seems pretty "You'd be stupid not to take the money" and/or "Why the hell would you want to bring someone back?" type thing, which just wasn't jiving with me. As I said, I agree with that perspective in some circumstances, but not in all, and certainly not in mine.
Anyway, it's all hypothetical, so I guess it doesn't really matter. But I still find the idea interesting.
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I think it certainly must depend on the circumstances and the person...perhaps some people simply haven't lost people they were extremely close to, or have lost them in circumstances that gave them time to make peace and have some measure of closure, like a grandparent - I lost my grandfather not long before I lost my brother, but because he was old and I pretty much expected that he would die some day soon, I got to say everything I needed to say. He'd lived a long life, he knew I loved him, and when he died I was sad but it doesn't stay with me as the kind of loss that Josh's death was. Josh totally knew I loved him, and vice versa, but he was gone so suddenly, and so young. I'd give just about anything to make sure he was okay and make sure he knew not just how much I love him, but how much I admire and respect him. I don't see how it would be a loss all over again. You'd know that it was only a day...you'd be prepared. I guess for people who still have things to say, or like abaya and justjess who lost people early in their lives, maybe it's just a completely different ballgame.