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I don't mind hugging my close friends when I see them. However it depends a great deal on their own personality. My closest friend I hardly get to see anymore, maybe once a year or two since we do not live in the same country and when I am back in Canada we are not in the same cities as we both move around a lot for our careers. When we do finally meet up it is a very strong hug filled with emotion, we're very close. Even picking him up off the ground. Again, he is an affectionate person and very empathic, plus we go sometimes years without seeing each other and we might as well be brothers.
Other friends of mine we will share a strong hand shake and one of those "man hugs" pressing of shoulder, slap on the back sort of thing. That is quite common, again because we do not see each other. This is most common between my friends from back home. I don't have any close friends here that I would consider close enough to Hug.
I find a Handshake to be just as effective to show respect and strength between men in a friendship. I have a formal/professional shake and I have a shake for meeting people and then I have a shake for my friends. They are various degrees of strength, eye contact and length. That sounds much more calculated then it really is but that's really what it comes down to.
Speaking of Brothers, my Brother and I are fairly close. However he's not an affectionate person and I don't ever remember Hugging him once in my entire life with the only exception of hugging him after his wedding which I was the Best Man. It's not needed between us, a hand shake time to time if we've been separated for a long period. He just doesn't like to be touched except by his Wife and even then I don't think he's comfortable with that in public.
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