Crazy
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Okay, okay.
I will never, ever, ever return the ring where I bought it. Too embarrassing, and the saleslady asked me a lot of questions like, "What's her name?" "How long have you two known each other?" It isn't anything like that (as I am WELL-AWARE), so I was reluctant to answer them...
HOWEVER... I may consider taking it to a jewelry exchange (They also purchase outright). Is that satisfactory? I hate when my goals go all awry, because they all do, no matter how "safe." Anyway, that would be the easiest thing. I can make up any story I want, as I turn it in to be appraised or whatever...
Another thing is: What proof is there that the ring is for her? I've made no attempts, whatsoever, in the aftermath of this to present it to her, and given the present prognosis, there is a 90% chance that I won't. Besides, it is in my name, certificate and all. Again, there is a 90% chance that I will just give up on the idea- only after reading these posts, though.
As for the "message," that was meant to be a message of despair- only to happen if I got really depressed over her. God knows, I might've just decided not to use it at all, in any case. It was my thought that I had the chance to decide this BEFORE I gave the ring. Apparently not. Apparently, purchasing an item is tantamount to not only presenting it, but then I also have no chance of deciding what my own mentality is on the matter (Not venting at you guys, just venting at the situation and all those involved in the forefront).
So, you can all relax. I do defy convention sometimes. I mean, I don't see how I'm bound by the traditions conjured by people long ago who I have no relation to, but after this, I've learned that tradition, etiquette, and tact are supreme laws ne'er to be defied. I'm not being sarcastic at all. I think what others did centuries ago that created precedent are really, really, really etched into society as supremely standard. That's kind of scary. Honestly, I feel like I'm living in the Dark Ages, and have become sort of a heretic for defying convention, even though I only did so in intent, and not in deed. The "deed" will most-likely not happen.
Don't fret, though. Whether I understand the 'why' or not, I DO see that others are shocked by this, and will act according to that, whether I agree with it or not.
Again, thank you for your counsel. It may seem like it is going in one ear and out the other, but I have taken to heart a great many things here.
On the bright side of things, the owner of the house (the roomate whose mom owns the house), has changed his mind and no doubt with the agreement of the other two roomates, will allow me to stay until the end of July, which was the original time, albeit "with conditions," which he said he will discuss with me later.
Thank you all for your advice. I HAVE listened, though not mechanically (not word-for-word).
Maybe my act is the start of a new sort of viewpoint, where no stone or mineral has any pre-concieved message or meaning, and that it's giver gets to decide what its connotation implies.
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