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OK, I've set this up in a separate thread with Kpax's approval. I think that this conversation is best set here to allow the First Love thread to remain intact.
Kpax, I think you may have missed the importance that many women assign to rings as presents. Something with the exact same amount and types of materials formed into a necklace or bracelet have completely different connotations. In other words, ring = marriage. If you're not very tight with this girl, which by all accounts seems to be true, then that's a very strange message to be sending. There's also the issue that you don't want her to date anyone else and that this ring was a pre-emptive move meant to remove that possibility. Honestly, that's just wrong.
Personally, I think you need to return the ring immediately. Get your money back and get rid of it. You can't give it to her now, and you're only going to cause yourself further embarrassment by keeping it around. The longer it's around the longer it's a potential problem.
Then I think you need to stop drinking and seek professional help, if for no other reason than to talk through your problems. You just need someone to give you some advice on how to be a little happier in life, and a professional is there to do exactly that.
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