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Originally Posted by mandy
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and i think that all you guys views and advices made me realise that maybe i should stop expecting more, i shouldn't be as demanding on him as i am and i should appreciate what i've got because there are some people out there who don't have it as good as i do. (...)
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Hey mandy,
just so you're not including me in there, let me tell you you should never "stop expecting more". I don't mean that you can never be satisfied with what you have, of course you can. But in this case, if you felt that certain issues you have with healer are important enough to bring the thought of breaking up into your head even though you say you love him with "every fiber" of your being, then maybe it's not so simple.
Why am I saying this? Because to me, your story sounds familiar. Once before, I loved someone with every fiber of my being, and I thought exactly the same. There were giving and selfishness issues, BIG ones, that I couldn't get my head around, even though I felt he was "the one". He also tried, half-heartedly I'd say now. I can honestly say I have never tried so hard emotionally and in a self-sacrificing way (to the point of having next to no dignity or pride for myself) to make something work - but at the end of the day, it wasn't ever going to be possible because we weren't compatible enough.
I also thought, I have to stop demanding so much, I have to give more and more, and I should appreciate what I've got. The point is, if you're not happy, it's not going to change if you're the only one who's is really trying and committed to putting the other person first.
I'm not saying you should break up, but give yourself a chance. It's not all in your head. You can be happy, and you should have a chance at that. With or without him. Please don't settle.
Good luck and I hope things work out for the best.