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Originally Posted by mandy
let me rephrase you last sentence there ngdawg..."intensities we still HAVE"
I am now and will forever be in love with healer and i will now and forever love him more deeply with each passing moment of everyday and i know he loves me the same.
and that should be enough right? what i need from him more than ever is just some consideration and unselfishness...which he tries to give most of the time but i give it all of the time...
i guess his trying should give me some hope...
but what if it just all gets too much? should i just stomach it and get over it?
this is not the first time we are in this predicament concerning his inconsideration and selfishness...and everytime it's the same thing.
i don't want to change him...i just want him to be more considerate and less selfish at times...is that too much to ask?
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Not at all...but you both have to define those parameters-what makes what he does 'selfish' as opposed to your 'giving all the time'? Is he more independent while you're more nurturing? Is it a viewpoint thing? The only way to dig into it is to voice what the other sees and really listen to it. How does he see your part? His own?
I've had this problem myself-the SO thinking what I do or did was 'against' him, not for me, etc. Once I explained my position and took in his, we moved along.
I appreciate that you want to discover the facets of what are you getting from this relationship...you also need to find out what he's getting as well.