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Originally Posted by lankrypt0
I can only imagine asking making things awkward and a bit of a turn off. If a woman asked me what I liked or didn’t like, I would immediately think that she was inexperienced and won’t know what she is doing.
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No, no, and no. Who cares if someone is inexperienced, as long as they are honest about it and not fumbling through? My husband was inexperienced when we first had sex (long before we got married), and I found it extremely sexy and cool that he had the confidence to ask what I liked or didn't like. If he had pretended to know better than he did, for example from a list or something, that would have been unattractive as a sign of a huge ego and/or insecurity (same thing). It was his humble approach and honesty that got my attention, and made me very grateful for his character.
On the flipside, I once dated a guy (messed around, didn't sleep with) who thought he was god's gift to women and thought he knew everything about everything.
No way, man... the guy ended up being a total asshole, never figured out how to get me off (because he was too arrogant to ask, having been with so many women before), and was generally too annoying to deal with in the long term.