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Martian · 05-21-2007, 04:34 AM

Umm... chalk it up to experience? Take it back and hopefully get your money back?

Dude, you came on way too strong and way too fast. You spent more than $3000 on a ring for a girl you barely know.

Once again, to make sure that I stress this enough.

You spent over $3000 on a girl you barely know.

The thing is, that's not even your mistake here. Not really. The first mistake you made was letting yourself get too wrapped in a girl who wasn't yours. You got so carried away with the idea that this girl was perfect for you that you kind of left rationality behind. Now this girl who from the sounds of it never really saw you that way to begin with is completely freaked out because you went from being her friend to buying her a massively expensive ring (with all the connotations that go along with that being right there in her head). You've completely skipped over the getting to know each other/falling for each other step and gone right to the major commitment step. So, yeah. The reason she thinks it's a little weird and creepy is because, in all honesty, it sort of is.

Dude, you are not in love with this girl. You're idolizing this girl, but you're not in love with her. How can you be in love with someone you don't even know? You admitted yourself that you don't know her as well as some (most) of her friends. Therefore, any feelings you have for her are based on either her physical appearance or some sort of fictional version of her you've created for herself and it's better for both of you this way. Even if you did get together with her, she wouldn't be able to meet your expectations of who she is, because she's not that girl.

Could you fall in love with her if you got to know her better? Maybe, but I'd say you're better off assuming that's not going to happen at this point. So return the ring if you can, consider this a lesson in relationships and move on with your life.

05-21-2007, 04:34 AM	#2 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	Umm... chalk it up to experience? Take it back and hopefully get your money back? Dude, you came on way too strong and way too fast. You spent more than $3000 on a ring for a girl you barely know. Once again, to make sure that I stress this enough. You spent over $3000 on a girl you barely know. The thing is, that's not even your mistake here. Not really. The first mistake you made was letting yourself get too wrapped in a girl who wasn't yours. You got so carried away with the idea that this girl was perfect for you that you kind of left rationality behind. Now this girl who from the sounds of it never really saw you that way to begin with is completely freaked out because you went from being her friend to buying her a massively expensive ring (with all the connotations that go along with that being right there in her head). You've completely skipped over the getting to know each other/falling for each other step and gone right to the major commitment step. So, yeah. The reason she thinks it's a little weird and creepy is because, in all honesty, it sort of is. Dude, you are not in love with this girl. You're idolizing this girl, but you're not in love with her. How can you be in love with someone you don't even know? You admitted yourself that you don't know her as well as some (most) of her friends. Therefore, any feelings you have for her are based on either her physical appearance or some sort of fictional version of her you've created for herself and it's better for both of you this way. Even if you did get together with her, she wouldn't be able to meet your expectations of who she is, because she's not that girl. Could you fall in love with her if you got to know her better? Maybe, but I'd say you're better off assuming that's not going to happen at this point. So return the ring if you can, consider this a lesson in relationships and move on with your life. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame