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Originally Posted by xepherys
It amazes me the amount of liberal and counter-liberal views people around here take about sexuality.
First of all, why do you think you'd be "competing" with his sister? As mentioned before, if there's no chance, there's no competition. Does he seem to be affectionate towards you or are you just there to fill the gap?
As for being disgusted by it... wtf? Like was mentioned, you are attracted to who you are attracted to. Not acting on it is what makes the difference. Plenty of guys have rape fantasies, three-way fantasies, all kinds of things that a lot of them would never do. If he has fantasies about his sis, so be it. If he has sex with her, then it might be a different story.
Regarding the "while she's sleeping"... see above?! Fantasies are not reality people. Fantasizing about sexually interacting with others without their consent is not even remotely the same as actually DOING it.
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well, i don't want to compete because it shouldn't be a competition. at the start of the relationship he was affectionate towards me. i was the one who had ended the relationship last year and i changed my mind a few months later.
and i NEVER said i was disgusted by it, i'm more disturbed by the idea. yes, i feel jealous that there's another female he wants but i'm disturbed with the fact that this other female is his sister. but maybe i shouldn't feel disturbed at all because i had feelings for my cousin when i was younger, so yes, i do understand that people can't help being attracted to who they're attracted to.
you can't deny that some people (maybe a lot, i don't know) do act out their fantasies. some may regret acting it out but others may not. like how some would boast about a good 3-way they had but if the 3-way went horribly wrong, then even if they were your best friend they'd probably keep quiet about it.
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Originally Posted by SecretMethod70
Really though, have you thought about the idea that maybe he's making this up just to freak you out and get you to stop bugging him? You say you still have/had feelings for him but he doesn't have feelings for you...maybe he just wants you to get out of his life and this is his way of making that happen.
Either way, on your end there's really only one thing to do: get over him and leave him alone. If he's making it up to piss you off, then that's what he wants you to do. If he's not making it up, then you should definitely be moving on. He's your ex, you apparently didn't have all that close of a relationship, and now it turns out he might be the kind of guy who sniffs his sister's underwear. Move on and forget about him.
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i don't think he's making it up and he doesn't know that i know. i know we didn't have a very close relationship but i'd hoped that we would get closer if we spent more time with each other. that's what supposed to happen, right?
although i'm disturbed by this new information, it hasn't really changed the way i feel about him. i guess i just need a fast foward button