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Originally Posted by pigglet
you'd think she would in a fully developed open relationship, but frankly i don't get the feeling you're really cultivating that kind of relationship. all these tests, all this sneakery...it doesn't look good from my point of view. all this concern for who she's going out with, when she's going out with them; that sort of concern is infectuous. you give off possessive jealous vibes that she picks up on. trust me. i'd almost guarrantee you do it. i've been there. i've seen it.
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Lol, actually she is really possessive and super jealous by nature (needy); her best friend told me that (word for word) in her presence and the presence of her 2-3 closest friends..
And this is true.. she was the one who started off early on about suspecting me cheating with other girls (mutual friends), which were completely unfounded.. this gave off a possessive jealous vibe which
I picked up on and I started doing the same back to her..
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Originally Posted by pigglet
honestly, out of context, i see nothing wrong with her response to the message. she said she'd take him places in ...errrhh...wherever. does it have a lot of places for one to be taken? is it an exciting place where the decision should be obvious?
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A large metropolitan city. Think something like San Francisco or New York.
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Originally Posted by pigglet
i agree with some others above that i think this relationship is probably sort of fucked in the short term; i disagree in putting it all on the girls side. i think its mutual. i think she's not being as honest and up front with you as she could/should be, and i think you're freaking out a bit too much about her and her boyfriend from the 9th grade.
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I don't care who's to blame, really. I care alot for her, and I just want to know for sure that she won't do anything cheating behind my back - on her own free will (without me confronting her or forcing her to *not* cheat). . Heck, is it unreasonable to want her to think of noone other than me (romantically)..
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Originally Posted by pigglet
do you have reason to believe that she might have particularly strong feelings for this guy? also, is this really about her hanging out with her ex from 9th grade, or about you feeling she misrepresented herself on the sex she had with the 27 year old playa from the himalayas?
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Yes, he was her first love and after she moved away in grade 9, he broke up with her. She hates sports and exercise, but at her new high school she joined the swim team (b/c *he* was in the swim team back home).
Ultiimately, I just want to know that I am not a 'temporary' guy to 'fill in' for her college years (since she and the Ex are in different universities), and that she is also using me to make him jealous or want her again...