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Originally Posted by match000
Ahh.. here is the reason I am snooping. I had a HUGE PROBLEMS with her from the get-go.. which I did not talk about on TFP:
Before our relationship started as bf/gf, I asked her if she had been seeing anyone else. Answer "Nope. No other guys."
2 days into relationship, caught her messaging some guy. Pressed her about it. Found out in Feb, she had been seeing him. He was 27. She wanted him to be bf. He said no. He still took advantage of her multiple times (sex) and used her. This was all 1 month before *our* relationship started..
So she lied to me once, that she had not been seeing another guy.
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Hello, that does not sound like she was seeing the first guy when he asked her if she was seeing anyone. Maybe he meant to ask if she was a virgin?
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Originally Posted by match000
I got super mad. Lectured her. Told her he used her. Etc.
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"Used her"? A) where do you get off telling her anything like that, and B) she needs someone else to tell her she was being "used"?
So I asked her if she had used protection. She said "yes".
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Originally Posted by match000
Then later I coerced more details out of her. Found out he had UNPROTECTED sex with her. I got SUPER SUPER mad. Explained to her the health risk (STD's), since up till then she had only been worried about pregnancy.
So second time she lied to me.
Yes. I got super mad. Considered breakup, etc. I couldn't take the lost of trust or lack thereof. But I said I would try again, since she promised she would "never lie to me again" and would be "as best a gf for me as she could".
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Wow. Being super mad at your gf (although I can understand being mad if she said she didn't have unprotected sex, and then had sex with you, although you haven't stated if that was the case), explaining to her how she was being "used", you sneak and read her texts to others, talk about *testing* her...to me it sounds like you are more her dad than her boyfriend, and that doesn't sound like a good/satisfying situation for either of you.