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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Caveat: this would generally be with a known partner or at least someone who knows what to expect, right? Not someone you just met who might not understand that you are playing.
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The specific situation I was describing applies to a known partner yes.
If it's someone I just met... I don't know. If I'm aroused and really like the guy, sometimes I might moan stop and not mean "we're done here". It might mean "let's slow down" or something. If I moan "Stop...", and a guy takes a step back (like say going back to kissing me again), chances are in a few minutes I'll be begging him to ravish me.
I know that might sound confusing to a guy... and I really don't mean to make things any harder for you. Sometimes you really have to watch her body language and her eyes, and figure out whether she's firmly telling you to piss off, or whether she wants you to slow down because she's not ready to go to the next step physically. Yet.
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Originally Posted by MrFriendly
A damn good question, if I was with a woman I didn't know too well and she said stop, then that's it, we're done for the night, all over.
Then again I have this near morbid fear of being accused of rape, it's hard to explain.
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If in doubt, then yes, stopping is the safest option. Maybe a good question is to ask "Do you want me to slow down, or stop altogether?"
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Originally Posted by ngdawg
I don't think it'd be hard to explain the fear. I should think it'd be one of the worst things that could happen to a man-that his life would hang on the words of a (possibly) crazy woman.
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Yes, I know of at least two people who have had their lives ruined by rape allegations.
I wish we women weren't so complicated. I'm not trying to stir shit here, I'm just trying to tell it like how it is (or at least how it is to me).