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Miss Mango · 05-01-2007, 08:52 AM

I think the term 'slut' should be stricken from the vocabulary.
I don't think the concept does anything good.

But beyond that, heres my theory-
In some ways, sex is a certain kind of power that women have over men: Men want it, are taught to seek it, and the act in itself is a validation of male identity. If you pull women, you're a man, gosh darn it. Other men see that, and congratulate that man over his capability.

However I think that for women, even though they might enjoy it just as much as men, the act of sex does not affirm feminine identity. Women see one girl get with a lot of guys, but so what? They could do what it takes to do that if they wanted. So it's more like eating good food - It's nice, but it's not who you are. Feminine identity is derived by other means. However sex might be necessary as a tool of manipulation in order to get to that validating act or status.

Thus if a girl has sex with a lot of guys, she not exercising the tool towards the current socially agreed-upon feminine goal. She is giving up her power over men (who might be key to the sought after-status) in a mostly one-way transaction. She is giving without receiving.

Sex is not bad, nor is having it with everyone you want. What is bad is to not look out for your interests, and to allow yourself to be used without getting what you want.

I guess the current definition of 'slut' would be an overly derogatory description for someone with an inaccurately low self worth.
Unfortunately, it seems to be reserved for just girls. If I called a guy-friend a slut, he'd just chuckle.
Not only that, womens fear of social ostracization from such things strikes fear so deeply within them, I think words like this truly are a cancer.

This is one of the reasons I think feminism should be promoted, and masculism should be developed as it's mirror reflection and counterpoint. They are vehicles of academic and political development in order to better understand each other and fix those deep seated, festering gender issues in our society.

The number of men doesn't matter unless doing it undermines your goal with those men, be it a relationship, social status, gold-mining, their adoration, or whatever.

On the other hand, if you put out with a guy who does not bear any potential for you, then that's probably not too good. That's an uneven power transaction.

05-01-2007, 08:52 AM	#1 (permalink)
Miss Mango Psycho	Slut NSFW I think the term 'slut' should be stricken from the vocabulary. I don't think the concept does anything good. But beyond that, heres my theory- In some ways, sex is a certain kind of power that women have over men: Men want it, are taught to seek it, and the act in itself is a validation of male identity. If you pull women, you're a man, gosh darn it. Other men see that, and congratulate that man over his capability. However I think that for women, even though they might enjoy it just as much as men, the act of sex does not affirm feminine identity. Women see one girl get with a lot of guys, but so what? They could do what it takes to do that if they wanted. So it's more like eating good food - It's nice, but it's not who you are. Feminine identity is derived by other means. However sex might be necessary as a tool of manipulation in order to get to that validating act or status. Thus if a girl has sex with a lot of guys, she not exercising the tool towards the current socially agreed-upon feminine goal. She is giving up her power over men (who might be key to the sought after-status) in a mostly one-way transaction. She is giving without receiving. Sex is not bad, nor is having it with everyone you want. What is bad is to not look out for your interests, and to allow yourself to be used without getting what you want. I guess the current definition of 'slut' would be an overly derogatory description for someone with an inaccurately low self worth. Unfortunately, it seems to be reserved for just girls. If I called a guy-friend a slut, he'd just chuckle. Not only that, womens fear of social ostracization from such things strikes fear so deeply within them, I think words like this truly are a cancer. This is one of the reasons I think feminism should be promoted, and masculism should be developed as it's mirror reflection and counterpoint. They are vehicles of academic and political development in order to better understand each other and fix those deep seated, festering gender issues in our society. The number of men doesn't matter unless doing it undermines your goal with those men, be it a relationship, social status, gold-mining, their adoration, or whatever. On the other hand, if you put out with a guy who does not bear any potential for you, then that's probably not too good. That's an uneven power transaction.