What I look for in a guy, generally:
Apart from anything else, I have to feel chemistry. He has to make my body tingle with excitement!
An open and friendly facial expression, that transpires some energy/vitality
able to engage in conversation with some ease, witty but also has something intelligent to say, amidst the small talk
not too hard-set in his opinions and is able to listen to others and have an amicable discussion
sincere and doesn't feel the need to play mind games, not scared of the truth
takes good care of his appearance, smells good, but isn't obssessed with what people think of him
has some degree of ambition or objectives in life
never cruel, and hopefully rarely immature, or irrational when there are problems to be solved
physically I prefer men with short or medium well cut hair, no beard, of slim build but toned, not overly hairy, and I like sparkly eyes and a cheeky grin.
also, can't smoke, spit on the ground, talk or chew with his mouth full, not signal while driving and think it's ok, make fun of/taunt me maliciously under any circumstance, must be willing to dance, must read books from time to time, be able to cook, and be willing to come to art exhibitions with me!
That's it! It's a tough one to get all in one huh?
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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