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Originally Posted by Bossnass
Just not needed, nothing to hide. We are separate people, but the trust is implicit.
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Exactly... this is how it is for us, too. We don't password-protect things, I don't hide my journal under the bed or something, we don't get all antsy about using each other's laptops... simply because it doesn't matter. We don't have anything to hide from each other (unless we are trying to surprise the other person with something nice, which is an entirely different issue!).
As Bossnass said, if I need him to check my e-mail when I am away from my desk and he's near a computer, for example, he does it without thinking. We know each other's passwords, but we never use them unless the other person asks us to (or we ask permission first). To use that kind of knowledge "against" each other would be extremely destructive to the relationship.
We just don't have any need to "snoop;" if one of us started doing that, we would talk to the other about it pronto and find out where the insecurity was coming from. But that hasn't happened yet. The trust is implicit and is an integral part of our relationship, as Bossnass said. I can't imagine a relationship working in any other way, but that's just me.
Damn, this issue rubs me the wrong way. I just would not tolerate any kind of breaches of trust like this... not even a hint of it. I saw how it destroyed my parents' relationship and I will not carry that into my marriage.