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As a result of growing up with brothers, I don't really apply this double standard. When I hit a guy, I expect him to hit me back, and vice versa. And yes, some might argue that fighting among siblings is in a field of its own, but I don't see a difference when anyone fights anyone else, regardless of gender. I find it annoying when girls complain about being hit by guys. Sure, it's one thing to complain about being hurt, but it's another to perpetuate the "guys can't hit girls" mindlessness. In a way, I find it a bit demeaning.
As for your particular case, if the girl doesn't want to be hit, it should be on the basis of being hurt rather than gender. If she's going to hit you, she should be prepared to get hit right back, because to not be in this mindset only perpetuates the problem. While actually hitting her probably won't solve your problem and isn't suggested for a long term solution, she shouldn't be allowed to continue on believing she is invincible and exempt from retaliation stemming from her actions. So, like what has been mentioned before, talk to her. Let her know that it's not fun/funny/cute/ or whatever she might think it is, and if she's going to try to uphold a senseless "rule" for protection, then that's not going to fly.
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