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Originally Posted by abaya
Yep, real simple. Too bad the dude seems to have no problem receiving oral sex... hmm, guess those blow jobs aren't too immoral for him, compared to everything else.
But giving oral sex to his gf, or putting his penis inside her, or doing anything that would make his gf physically happy... well shit, that's his inalienable right to withhold that kind of affection, because that's downright immoral! Shame on the girl for asking him to do such immoral things.
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I completely agree with this assessment. I also happen to agree with Infinite-Loser. It's completely irresponsible of him (relationship wise) to be willing to accept oral sex, but be unwilling to perform the same. It's one thing if he's not ready for sex, but something completely different if he's not willing to reciprocate what is IS ready to do.
I understand my previous statements may have seemed like attacks - they werent... at least not totally. Some people simply said "move on" and I'm pointing out this isn't helpful. The guy has known you for ONLY 4 months... maybe he's not sure if he's ready to make that intimate a connection with you. Lord knows that I think sexuality is a VERY important part of a successful relationship - but only if both parties are ready for it. Waiting until the time is right for both of you is the honorable thing to do. Leaving him because he isn't ready to fuck you after four months? That sounds like a pretty flimsy excuse to me.
My thoughts on this are that if he's not ready, no amount of talking to him is going to help. I feel that you should let him know that YOU feel the two of you are ready, and that you're eager to share that experience. Telling him that he's wrong (not saying you will) won't help, it'll probably make it worse.
In the respec department, I can't agree more with what Infinite-Loser has said.
Seriously, I wish you the best here - and I hope he's lucky enough to mount you.