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I have been thinking about this since my last post, and I think I should re-write what I wrote to clarify.
What he did by calling you dysfunctional is completely unacceptable, but you must understand why. It's a defense mechanism, he treaded into a whole new world before he met you, and got burned badly. Imagine if your first 4 partners in sex told you that you were horrible, I'm sure you'd be pretty hurt as well. However, the society we live in says a man has to be awesome in bed, and can't ever give any hint of insecurity about sex at any time, he struck at you because he is given no other recourse as far as he is aware (without looking like a pussy basically).
No where did I say that you need to just shut up and wait until he is ready. Communication and sex are two very very very important parts of a relationship, if they don't work the relationship won't. However, he is still recovering. Yes he's had 4 girls before you, but he wasn't ready for them either. Just give him time, and give him some space on the issue. You two need to see a professional together as others have stated. Get the full and open communication going, and the intimacy (and sex) will follow I'm sure.
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