Sultana

From my initial reading, I'm much more inclined to believe he has the religious issues going on, regardless of whether he's "left the fold". The OP has stated repeatedly that he has moral issues with things (porn, for example). I think he's still transitioning into a completely new way of thinking (or maybe thinking for himself, for a start!), and is trying to do "the right thing" without really establishing what is the right thing, and why it's the right thing.

It is completely unacceptable for him to call you sexually dysfunctional. I'd put the kabosh on an attitude like that *immediately*. I can see it becoming very easy for him to push his problems off onto you if you don't nip that sh*t in the bud, and I mean NOW.

Like abaya said so well, it is neither immature nor shallow to communicate your needs, whether emotional or physical, to one's partner. Please don't ever fall into that trap, silence for the sake of peace. It takes a while, but it *will* kill you inside.

Lastly, I do have a huge issue with the fact that he accepts oral from you, but it's sinful or immoral or he's *not ready* to reciprocate. That does not communicate love to me--rather it displays a very selfish and immature state of mind.

To me it sounds like he's not standing on his own, he's not his own person at this stage. It's all transitional to him right now, which is completely understandable. And I just don't see how a person in that state can make an equal partner in a relationship, regardless of if you love him, or he you.

But Love overcomes issues--or it's supposed to, eh?

Good luck, sweetie. Please do keep up updated on your progress, ok?

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