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Does he look at porn, btw? Just wondering what his general attitude is towards sexuality.
I don't think it's shallow or "teenager"-ish to communicate your sexual needs to the man. If he can't fulfill them, then he can't fufill them. That is a really important thing to get right in a relationship, no matter what kind of religious/non-religious past you have.
From what you are saying, I think he may be having problems with sex precisely *because* he only had sex with people he didn't love. His head is seriously screwed up from the religious leftovers, and he needs to get into counseling if he is really committed to the relationship.
Hell, even if you break up with him, he's going to face the same problem over and over again until he gets himself some help. But at the moment, he's going to take you for granted (believe me, when I was a recovering Christian, there have been times when I would have been happy NEVER having sex for the rest of my life!) until you make it clear that this is a serious, mature problem, and you will leave him if he doesn't face up to his issues. Not that he has to has sex with you, but he has to at least take charge of his problem and work on it... that would show real desire to help the relationship.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
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