Same advice that lots of people give here, although it's wise, it's hard to do sometimes- back off. Don't call her. Don't hang out with her. If you run in to her, five minutes or less of conversation, then split. If she phones, answer and say you're just going out the door. If she invites you anywhere, you're busy doing something with your girlfriend, who makes you happy and isn't abusing your heart (you can omit the last part if yuo want to). I've done this, it works great, and makes you get your strength back, to the point where you almost wonder why you ever bothered with this person to begin with.
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