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Originally Posted by oFia
Ah hah. Okay, then that makes a little more sense. I guess that leaves me curious about the blanket assumptions about all adoptions then.  |
Domestic adoption is too scary because of the legal ramifications...I don't want some judge deciding 3 years down the road that it's better off for a kid to be with its biological parents. It's great that you can have the child basically from birth, and in some cases can even be involved with the mother before birth, but it's still too shaky for my tastes.
International adoption is frightening because you don't really know the conditions in which the child is raised before you adopt them. If it's a good orphanage with consistent, low-ratio caregiving, or if the child was raised in a family setting for most of its life before you adopt, fine. But I've known too many people who've adopted internationally only to be surprised down the road by problems that have cropped up that, had they known about the precursors, could have been treated or intervened with. But since the precursors (early sensory/language deprivation, attachment issues, parental substance abuse, etc.) happened before the adoption and weren't documented, there was no real way for them to do anything about it until it was too late.