*Wonders why he bothers*
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Originally Posted by 1010011010
What they're intending/trying/purporting to do and what they're actually doing are not necessarily the same thing.
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I noticed how sly you were at avoiding my question, so I'll ask you again: I'd like to know how you came to the conclusion that this is the message that they're trying to convey to their children.
It seems to be, at best, a blatant misrepresentation of the actual purpose/intent of such ceremonies.
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Based on the observation of various other comments in this thread, such conclusions and interpretations are not an uncommon result.
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I hate to break it to you, but the conclusions of outsiders looking in aren't always accurate. Until you have some type of statistical evidence which proves that these girls are worse off than their non-pledging counters-- Or even testimonies from the girls themselves which show that they suffer mentally, physically and emotionally as a result of these rituals-- Then the only thing you have to work with is baseless assumptions. That's the bottom line.
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On the basis that they re-examine their policies in light of objections from their community and decide to agree with the points being made.
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Why should they re-examine their parenting policies? Because you don't like them? How about not?
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Why do you think the recipients of the message sent by such ceremonies is limited only to the girls who participate? If you see that your sister is primarily valued for her "purity"... how does that shape your view of girls that aren't "pure"?
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I have to ask... If the roles were reversed and the rituals strictly mother-son, do you believe that as many people would care? I'd be willing to bet that they wouldn't. It's been proven that good father/daughter relationships drastically decrease destructive behavior in women, and I believe that's what these parents are trying to accomplish. We'll all need to wait a few years to see how these girls turn out compared to their counterparts. Until then, it's useless trying to tell someone else that they're doing the wrong thing.