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HerdingCats · 03-30-2007, 05:29 AM

Thanks so much for this forum – I’ve been having similar problems for several years and the information and ideas here have really helped! I have had a recurring problem with a deep tear at the 6 o’clock position, and tiny vulvar tears began to develop recently. My husband was distraught that our romance was causing me pain. We are STD free, and otherwise in good health.

I have found something that works for me – somebody please try this, and write back to this forum to let us know if it works for you too!

I’m in my mid 40s and have put on a few pounds over the years- not fat, but enough to have a bit of fat/flab on my hips – And I have figured out that the way that I sit affects the vaginal tearing. I think that when I sit, my hips spread out more now, stretching and thinning out the delicate tissue, and causing the skin to be weakened and more easily torn during intercourse.

This fix involves relieving stress on the skin in your daily activities. It's similar to Kegel exercises – pinch your bottom together as you sit down, so that your cheeks are closer together. Be aware of how stretched the vaginal/anal skin is when you are sitting – readjust your hips and bottom if the skin is pulled tight, so that it’s under no strain. Especially watch the way that you sit on the toilet – that’s when I notice the stretched skin the most. Straining to poop may also over-stretch the skin. For a few weeks, we also tried positions where I was sure not to stretch the skin during intercourse.

The vulvar tears are gone, the deep tear is healing and no longer painful, and we’re both much happier now.

Try this for a few weeks and see if it helps!

03-30-2007, 05:29 AM	#72 (permalink)
HerdingCats Upright	This Might Help Thanks so much for this forum – I’ve been having similar problems for several years and the information and ideas here have really helped! I have had a recurring problem with a deep tear at the 6 o’clock position, and tiny vulvar tears began to develop recently. My husband was distraught that our romance was causing me pain. We are STD free, and otherwise in good health. I have found something that works for me – somebody please try this, and write back to this forum to let us know if it works for you too! I’m in my mid 40s and have put on a few pounds over the years- not fat, but enough to have a bit of fat/flab on my hips – And I have figured out that the way that I sit affects the vaginal tearing. I think that when I sit, my hips spread out more now, stretching and thinning out the delicate tissue, and causing the skin to be weakened and more easily torn during intercourse. This fix involves relieving stress on the skin in your daily activities. It's similar to Kegel exercises – pinch your bottom together as you sit down, so that your cheeks are closer together. Be aware of how stretched the vaginal/anal skin is when you are sitting – readjust your hips and bottom if the skin is pulled tight, so that it’s under no strain. Especially watch the way that you sit on the toilet – that’s when I notice the stretched skin the most. Straining to poop may also over-stretch the skin. For a few weeks, we also tried positions where I was sure not to stretch the skin during intercourse. The vulvar tears are gone, the deep tear is healing and no longer painful, and we’re both much happier now. Try this for a few weeks and see if it helps!