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Anyone else disturbed by the fact that many of these girls are coerced to pledging when they are not even preteen? I knew what sex was at a VERY young age but I wouldn't have been able to comprehend or understand the pledge being made. I highly suspect most of these girls are going through with it because it's a dress party all for them. Attention attention attention....I would have wanted that much attention when I was younger. I read that and immediately thought the girls just love the attention.
I've seen similar kinds of things when growing up.
A church my mom goes to would have wednesday night service and they would have a pledge every wednesday. I was maybe 13, 14 at the time and thought the whole thing was kind of weird then. I saw people pledging to be virgins that were in fact not virgins. I remember the youth pastor asking me why I would not pledge. I think I said something along the lines of why would I make a promise I can't predict I can keep.
To me back then I didn't want to dissapoint anyone by breaking any promises and the only way to do that was to not make any.
As it was my mom was the type that preached "no sex till marriage" Quite honestly I have no idea why as all three of us kids have different dads and were born out of wedlock and has talked of cheating....whole other story...

I chose to wait till I found someone that I really truly loved and thought I could spend the rest of my life with. I just wanted my first time to be with someone that loved me and wanted me. I was 18.

What makes me sick is alot of these people are having their daughters go through these ceremonies and do not educate them on safe sex or what it intails. My mom never once had a sex talk with me. The only things I knew I had read or heard from friends. Thank goodness for Cosmo magazine back then.
When my mom discovered I had been sleeping with Alpha phi she flipped and exclaimed "HOw could you?! I never got to have the sex talk with you?!, Don't you dare tell your sister because she'll want to do it too"

Little late to be telling an 18 year old about sex? Nevermind the fact my younger sister had already been sexually active for a year or two before me.
They found out she was having sex when she became knocked up her junior year of high school.

Another thing that bothers me is the lack of mention of boys staying celebate. Girls are not owned. I loathed being treated like that when I was growing up and hate to see other young girls go through the same thing. The whole thing is archaic.

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